Why we don’t like ourselves?
The way we treat and perceive ourselves is a rather complex and multifaceted process, and there are many factors that can influence why we sometimes don’t like ourselves.
Here are some of the main reasons:
Social comparison: We often compare ourselves to other people, especially in the age of social media. Typically, we compare unfavorably, seeing the apparent perfection of others, which can lead to feelings of our own inadequacy.
Self-criticism: Sometimes we are our own worst critics, judging ourselves too harshly and holding ourselves to unrealistically high standards in terms of appearance and other aspects of our lives. Such self-criticism inevitably leads to fixation on our imperfections, self-disappointment, and perfectionism.
Past traumas and experiences: Past traumas, including emotional and physical ones, often leave noticeable marks on self-esteem.
Society and beauty standards: Societal and media-imposed beauty and success standards can create a sense of not measuring up to these standards.
Stress and depression: Experiencing stress or depression can significantly affect self-esteem and self-perception.
Personal failures: Life failures and setbacks can evoke feelings of failure and self-rejection.
Unconscious beliefs: We may have unconscious negative beliefs about ourselves that are automatically activated in trigger situations.
Feeling unacceptance towards oneself is natural in some situations. Fortunately, it can change over time, as we grow personally or with professional support.
I help my clients to learn and accept their individuality, appearance, body, life success, sexuality, and love themselves through self-awareness, working with past traumatic events and their negative beliefs. Changing negative self-perception and attitude towards oneself with understanding, warmth, and love fundamentally changes our lives.