Are Your Various Kinds of Relationships Causing Problems?
Relationships can mean different things to different people and there are various types of relationships such as with ourselves, colleagues, neighbours, friends, dating & marriage, and family relationships that cause problems.
Feelings you may be struggling with:
- Anxiety, fear, depression, insomnia, loneliness
- Blaming others, negativity, victim mentality
- Feeling stuck, indecisive, overwhelmed, confused
- Low self-esteem, inability to establish or reach goals
Struggles that often occur in our relationship with ourselves:
- Boredom, loss of interest or meaning in life, resentments, anger
- Acute or long-term health issues causing distress
- Repeating unhealthy patterns, creating the same undesirable outcomes
- Not accountable for one’s own life choices, feelings, attitudes and outcomes
Unrealistic expectations, disappointments, trauma, unresolved issues from past:
- Resistance to change, rigidity, difficulty embracing new opportunities to grow
- Challenged to trust self or others, exhibits need to control, lack of transparency
Situations that challenge us in our relationships:
- Difference in core values, philosophies, faith, politics (without mutual respect)
- Differences of opinion, outgrowing each other
- Power imbalance, violence, abuse, bullying, reactivity, aggressiveness, passiveness
- Challenges with setting and maintaining healthy boundaries & communication
Struggles that often occur in our relationships with others:
- Issues finding or maintaining a healthy long-term partner or friends
- Affairs, cheating, lying, inappropriate behaviour
- Financial issues, disagreements or crisis, chronic financial stresses or problems
- Lack of accountability, breach of agreements, breach of trust, lack of respect
- Difficulty with healthy communication, frequent conflict or distancing
The Mirror: Our Relationship With Ourselves Reflects our Relationship with Others
Having a harmonious relationship with ourselves and others requires insight, balance and mutual respect. Most relationship issues appear when we lose balance between caring for ourselves and for those people around us so it is vital to understand that before building any relationship with others, we must FIRST give enough love, forgiveness, understanding, support and joy to ourselves. The problem of a misbalanced relationship is a narrow focus only on ourselves and our goals leading to ignoring other people’s needs or only considering other’s needs at the cost of ignoring our own.
If Those Around You Stayed the Same: What Would You Need to Change in You to be HAPPY?
Understanding the power of choice and perspective is empowering beyond belief! Blame can be seen as a form of victimhood. When we learn to adjust how we see our problems and be accountable for our life, experiences, reactions and decisions, we take our power back. We become more equipped and confident to deal with difficult decisions. We become aware of and address potentially difficult situations before they become a crisis. Our level of confidence and clarity allows us a greater sense of ease and peace in all of our relationships. One of our greatest gifts is that as we change and empower ourselves, a ripple effect spills out to those around us which can positively impact other. As we learn better ways to change, navigate difficulty and nurture a better relationship with ourselves, we will start to witness an improvement to the quality of our relationships around us.
Pressing the “Reset Button” in Relationships – Counselling Empowers New Opportunities
What would you give to press the “reset” button in a relationship you are struggling with? What would you give to have a chance to start over, move forward and be peaceful and happy? This kind of change is very possible if you are willing to move beyond habit and change yourself so you can change your world.
Therapeutic counselling can be your first step to becoming unstuck and creating desirable change in your life. Together, we will explore the beliefs, feelings and behaviors that has been preventing you from reaching the relationships you deserve. You don’t have to struggle alone in facing the same issues every day. Together, we can discover all the choices you have and find the way for you to achieve your successful relationship.
If you wish you could press the “reset” button and have a different outcome in any relationship, counselling is a wonderful option for you.
“I came to see Lana and was feeling lost, unhappy and was in need of a change. My relationship with my husband was strained and I went to her to help me make a transition in my life (aka how to leave my husband). Lana empowered me to allow myself to be happy. I started making plans for myself, looking after myself and very quickly things changed for me. I am doing what I want to do and not doing what I should do.
My husband and I enjoy doing some things together. We are independent in our pursuit of happiness. My marital relationship may not be what I had pictured it to be, but it’s ok. Lana also helped me deal with some past trauma. She really got to the root of my unhappiness with clarity and continues to be a support. It sounds crazy and simple but Lana gave me permission to be happy.” – K